People shared the ‘small bombshells’ dropped by their therapists and you can have these 17 life-changing tips for free
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‘I had an initial assessment with a therapist after my GP referred me. At the end he said ‘you, my dear, do not have a mental health problem. You have a work problem. I’ll happily keep seeing you, but unless you get a different job things will not likely change’
‘He was very very right’
-StrategyKindly4024
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‘During my first session with a new counsellor, I was telling her about an emotionally draining situation I was in and how I have a tendency to take on everyone’s burdens to my own detriment. She pointed out that it was a lack of self-esteem—feeling like I’m worthless on my own, so I might as well be of use to others. A whole lot of things clicked into place after that.’
-_ser_kay_
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‘Empathy without boundaries is self abandonment’
-SoIomon
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‘Honesty without compassion is cruelty. Kindness without honesty is manipulation.’
-darker_skies14
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I’ve always had a rough time remembering things. Being on time. Losing focus etc. At my request my GP sent me to a psychologist for an ADHD assessment when I was 37 years old. I had been reading up on it and it sounded just like me, but also I had imposter syndrome bad and as soon as the appointment was made I started doubting myself.
‘I get to my first appointment an hour early, with all my paperwork ready to go. I just knew he was going to say I was fine and send me on my way just based on that. But no, not only did I have the wrong day, it was the wrong month.
The second session he sat me down and said “The fact that you have gone this long without a diagnosis or any help is frankly astonishing. I have to ask, with no disrespect, how have you held down a job?”
‘Everything changed after that. Hearing confirmation that something was off and it wasn’t just me being lazy totally shifted my perspective. I got on medication, I started researching how to help myself that would work with how I perceived life. It was honestly life changing in the best way.
‘I still have my moments but now that I understand why I do things the way I do, I can counter them or even prevent them.’
-Ezada
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‘”It’s not your job to be your mother’s emotional crutch. Do you know that she is supposed to take care of you?”
I was 11 at the time.’
-AFearfulSilence
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‘“I don’t think I’m an anxious person.”
“You just said you were worried about 10 different things in 10 minutes.”’
-Ok_Chemist6567
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‘That I was deserving of the same kindness I showed other humans and animals.
‘He asked what I liked most about myself. After a long pause I said I was kind. He asked for examples. I told him about cooking for ill friends, staying sober purely to trip sit some crazy parties, being vegan solely for ethical reasons, working with disabled and sometimes violent kids for minimum wage, picking up stranded friends, volunteering for animal charities, being the house that everyone came to when they had a problem.
‘He nodded thoughtfully. Then asked, but are you kind to yourself? Just the idea that I was worthy of my own kindness completely blew my depressed little brain.’
-shiftyemu
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