‘What’s considered attractive but is actually a major turn off?’ – 16 ‘green flags’ that burn bright red in real life

Finding the perfect partner is tough. Anyone out there who is single and ready to mingle is putting their best foot forward.

So love at first sight can catch anyone off guard. But what happens after the third date and beyond?

There is always a catch. Even when all the initial signs point to the perfect catch.

Looking to get to the truth of the matter, u/AO_KinkyCouple asked r/AskReddit:

“What’s considered attractive until you actually have to deal with it in real life?”

Clearly there are many qualities that draw us to certain types. The below answers pull the curtain back on some of the most attractive personality and physical traits in the dating field.

1.
“Living on a small tropical island. Minor goods and services can be a huge struggle, like that one time the whole island was out of printer ink and I needed to get some legal documents sorted. Also, hurricanes fucking up your whole island every few years is not that fun. Also having to fly to another country for medical care that is anything more than an X-ray… or if the only X-ray technician on the island goes away for a couple of weeks to visit family.”
El_mochilero

2.
“Snuggling to fall asleep. I’m sorry but I need space when I am trying to sleep. I feel claustrophobic having someone right there.”
ValueExisting3193

3.
“Extreme spontaneity and constant unpredictability.”
0utlawViking

4.
“Someone idealising and romanticising you. They straight up don’t see you as an actual person who has feelings, just someone above them who couldn’t possibly care as much as they do. They don’t want you to be happy unless it revolves around them, you end up feeling responsible for their well-being, and they get a massive ego boost off of getting under your skin or being the reason you’re upset. Ironically this person wasn’t even less than me or under my league at all, just incredibly insecure.”
throwawaygirl229

5.
“I’ve known a lot of guys in bands and people tend to think it’s attractive. Travelling all the time? Doing shows in bars multiple nights a week? Getting groupies? Yeah, not for me. I’d never date a guy in a band or a pro athlete for that matter. No time for me and women flock to them. Yes, I’m the selfish jealous type.”
Upset_Confection_317

6.
“Being nonchalant. Lots of people love that but in reality it’s very annoying. You talk to the person and they will never get excited, it can seem like they don’t care always ‘hm’ ‘yeah’ ‘ok’ ‘cool.’”
MeikoChii

7.
“Muscular men.”
Chibsie

8.
“Everything revolves around their meals and gym time.”
BeautifulArtichoke37