Jameela Jamil’s experiences of sexual harassment sparked replies that will make you despair
Actor and model, Jameela Jamil, spends a lot of her time calling out toxic behaviour, such as body-shaming, pushing harmful diet aids, and misogyny – and she takes no shit from anyone. She recently shared a couple of experiences she has had in which she received unwanted attention from men.
https://twitter.com/jameelajamil/status/1109958564255162368
Let a bitch live.
— Jameela Jamil (@jameelajamil) March 24, 2019
Her experience resonated with other women, like Nicky’s Twin.
It’s gross that you had to mention that you were already taken by another man (we’ve probably all done this) to try to “let a man down easy” in order to stay safe and that didn’t even ducking work
— Nicky’s Twin (@SnarkyTwin) March 24, 2019
Her comment brought another horrible incident to mind.
I once said no thank you to man when I was 19 and didn’t have an excuse… and he punched me in the face. After that whether or not I have a boyfriend, I say I do. Being a woman is truly, constantly scary. It’s like existing on thin ice. https://t.co/cw1BCc9XUB
— Jameela Jamil (@jameelajamil) March 24, 2019
More stories flooded in, many of which would make you despair for the state of masculinity.
I once got an open palm slap on my face by a guy who drunkenly tried to grope me while I was in the makeshift backstage during a show while changing into Lutchuke sari. My ears rang for 5 mins afterwards but the set went ok. https://t.co/iUITU0LMWn
— Aditi (hot takes 4 koolkidz) (@awryaditi) March 25, 2019
Resorting to insults after a rejection is obviously Wounded Masculinity 101.
Not a joke,in high school a dude was making advances. I was into him,but not down to do what he wanted to do. He called me a slut,threw dirt clods at my face and told me he tried that because he felt sorry for me. He l8r egged me in an Albertson’s parking lot. 👍🏻
— Gravy Spice (@kirrsstt) March 25, 2019
I've been spat at, followed and punched for rejecting men. Somehow when you aren't good looking, they hate you more for it, because they think you'll be grateful (yep, I've actually had that said to me).
— Carole29 (@Carole29) March 25, 2019
So many tales to tell, but one always sticks in my head.
15 years old, horrid much older man trying it on with me, groping me asking to buy me a drink. I tell him I’m not really interested, he pushed me and said I should be so lucky as I’m a complete dog, whore, slag.— Lucy. (@crapolatombola) March 25, 2019
Women are so often been seen as chattels.
I once had a guy come up to me on the street and say, “I hope your husband or boyfriend doesn’t mind me talking to you.” I wanted to be like, “Motherfucker, what if I MIND YOU TALKING TO ME?!”
— Anya (@anyabelisle) March 25, 2019
As someone who worked in pubs and clubs from 14 years old to 21, I lost count of the number of imaginary boyfriends I fabricated after quickly figuring out that most customers had more respect for another man’s property than a woman’s personal feelings or age. https://t.co/LpVFWSRZ5A
— Jane Bradley (@jane__bradley) March 25, 2019
When I was serving, I had a decoy engagement ring. It’s gross how often “no” wasn’t good enough, but “I’m engaged” was. It’s even grosser how often “I’m engaged” WASN’T good enough.
— Elle Young (@elle_yung) March 24, 2019
Age is no barrier to a sexual predator.
One time when I was around 13 years old, a man asked for my number and when I declined he followed me home and harassed me for around 40 minutes.. being a girl/woman in a world when men think they’re entitled to know a woman despite objections really is scary
— el (@okaybuthes) March 25, 2019
I'd just turned 15 and a guy in my community met me while I was out with an older friend of the family (she was in her 20s) asked for my number and I said my mom didn't allow me to give out my number and told him my age. He told me I was lying and kept persisting
— Roni (@Roni_B90) March 25, 2019
The woman’s sexuality is also of no consequence, apparently.
throwback to the guy who insisted that me having a girlfriend wasn't a good enough excuse not to date him because "girls don't count" and managed to get all my contact info except my address and harass me from multiple accounts for months. now I say I have a boyfriend, too.
— Steph (@ValaBlack) March 24, 2019
Other women can be amazing allies.
I got called a lesbian and told I was probably on my period when I rejected a guy his friend also spat a chip at me ♀️ and this this awesome girl came out of nowhere and started shouting at them. Not how I expected the end of my night out to go
— Kennise Darlsson (@kennydarlsson) March 24, 2019
But not if they buy into the “you were asking for it” bullshit.
A few nights ago, I was sexually assaulted during a date. Rather than hearing me out, my own friends went “well why did you wear a dress?” So the fact that women, who I considered friends, say it is still the woman’s fault proves how far we have to come. #metoo
— kelly ann (@see_kel) March 24, 2019
One woman, Sally McSurly, put it into devastatingly real terms
The way I’ve tried to explain it to male friends is that as a woman, my life is a constant threat assessment.
— Sally McSurly (@SallyMcSurly) March 25, 2019
If you’re heading over to say “Not all men”, save your breath for lecturing your brethren on not being creeps.
H/T: Twitter Moments