‘What’s one thing your parents told you growing up that you completely disagree with now?’ 17 belated realisations
10.
‘My parents both firmly believed that nobody “but your family” genuinely cares about you or genuinely means it if they pretend to.
‘Ironically, neither of my parents gave a single shit about anyone but themselves. They certainly didn’t care about each other. Or me.
‘In retrospect, I’m pretty sure this was some weird manipulative shit to try to get me to be more dependent on them and lower their risk of anyone hearing about what shitty people (and parents) they were.’
-External-Tiger-393
11.
‘Forgiving makes you the bigger person. Forgiving and moving on aren’t mutually exclusive. And some things aren’t worth forgiving.’
-ouioksur
12.
‘One day you will marry a random dude and then thou shall cling to him like a barnacle for the rest of your life. Although you haven’t met him yet, you already owe him.
‘This is hyperbole, but growing up in a religious household, it feels like this is the message.’
-BananaMapleIceCream
13.
‘That I would become more conservative as I got older and richer.’
-alidc722
14.
‘The police are ALWAYS there to help.
‘I gotta say, I respectfully disagree.’
-2baverage
15.
‘You have to be married to have sex.’
-MontansMsM
16.
‘That I have to earn their respect. I am a human being, not a robot or a servant.’
-phrodielaw
17.
‘My parents genuinely believed in rules. My mom taught me to “play the game,” by which she meant how to watch how social interactions work and mimic them. I didn’t realize until I was an adult that she genuinely believed that people would do things like turn in things they found to the nearest authority, partially because it took me a decade or so to unbelieve that myself.
‘That people would be selfish, or thievish, or less than going-out-of-their-way-to-help-their-fellow-man… would never occur to her. And if anyone did it in her presence, she’d just be a Disappointed 2nd Grade Teacher at them.
‘I’m fairly disillusioned now, but I do love my mom’s view of humanity.’
-Procris
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