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Men have been sharing the ‘red flags’ they notice in women that they might not know they’re flying – 17 possible warning signs

10.
‘The whole being too good for a simple date. I never met the girl and suggested a coffee date. She felt I wasn’t putting in enough effort because she’s too good for that to be a first date. She wanted me to take her to a nice Italian restaurant. I would totally have taken her to a nice restaurant on a later date. First date needs to be casual and easy to escape.’
-dwarfinthefla5k

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‘Low effort. When I feel like I’m always the one reaching out, I’m always the one starting conversations, I’m the one trying to keep things going, I’m the one making plans. I’ve chatted with women who insist they’re interested, but put in no effort, and when I start to ease up and give them space they rush back wondering why I’m no longer interested.

‘It would be nice to wake up to a good morning text, or have someone be the one to say “let’s do this”, or even if they feel the conversation is starting to hit a stale point to try and save it. Not place all of that solely on me.’
-MrGhost2023

12.
‘I’m happily married, but one thing that makes me cringe and throws up red flags even from a friend standpoint is when a woman says they “don’t get along with other women” or “always got along better with the guys”.’
-UnderwaterB0i

13.
‘There’s nothing wrong with talking about one’s past life and past relationships from time to time. I think it’s important to understand how your SO got to where they are today, how that affected them as a person, etc.

‘That’s not really first date material, though, nor is it something that needs to be a frequent topic of conversation, especially when a couple is spending time with other friends. At a certain point it becomes clear that the person who keeps bringing it up is not at peace with their past relationships and is not ready for a new one.’
Capnmarvel76

14.
‘”If you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best.”

‘It’s not only a bad implication, it’s also a weirdly confrontational thing to say before anyone has even said “hello.”’
-ConsiderationTrue477

15.
‘Trying to make the guy jealous.

‘Once I hit my early 30s, I could easily tell when a date/girlfriend was attempting to make me jealous….in my teens it would work, by 30 it just makes the woman look petty/malicious/immature.’
-WorkingOnPPL

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‘The use of therapy language to disguise lack of emotional depth. Accurately and precisely discerning your emotions and thoughts is a good skill, cleverly embellishing behaviours and feelings with social-media-hip-psychology less so, and really just comes off as you not ‘actually’ doing personal work.’
-ohnoequinox

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‘I’m 81 and have been a widow since I was 62, but when I first met my husband, we talked about ideas, current events, politics, etc. as well as books and movies. We listened to music and only watched a little TV. We went out to eat and to see movies… only occasionally a concert or play.

‘Basically we spent our time falling in love and being besotted with each other. We stayed in love with each other until the day he died from glioblastoma. That diagnosis was an extremely hard one because it is a death sentence- in 95% of the cases the person receiving the diagnosis dies within 15 months of receiving it.

‘I still really miss him, not that there weren’t a few bumps in the road, like when living with anyone. But we were sympatico. I had a good marriage with a husband who “let me be me” as one of my friends put it. If you can’t have that type of marriage then don’t bother because you will be unhappy.’
-CarolJGR1944

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