This mum’s shutdown of men ‘grandstanding’ about abortion and women’s rights is just brilliantly done
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No matter how many orgasms she has, they won’t make her pregnant. Pregnancies can only happen when men have an orgasm. Unwanted pregnancies can only happen when men orgasm irresponsibly.
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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What this means is a women can be the sluttliest slut in the entire world who loves having orgasms all day long and all night long and she will never find herself with an unwanted pregnancy unless a man shows up and ejaculates irresponsibly.
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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Women enjoying sex does not equal unwanted pregnancy and abortion. Men enjoying sex and having irresponsible ejaculations is what causes unwanted pregnancies and abortion.
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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Let’s talk more about responsibility. Men often don’t know, and don’t ask, and don’t think to ask, if they’ve caused a pregnancy. They may never think of it, or associate sex with making babies at all. Why? Because there are 0 consequences for men who cause unwanted pregnancies.
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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If the woman decides to have an abortion, the man may never know he caused an unwanted pregnancy with his irresponsible ejaculation.
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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If the woman decides to have the baby, or put the baby up for adoption, the man may never know he caused an unwanted pregnancy with his irresponsible ejaculation, or that there’s now a child walking around with 50% of his DNA.
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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If the woman does tell him that he caused an unwanted pregnancy and that she’s having the baby, the closest thing to a consequence for him, is that he may need to pay child support. But our current child support system is well-known to be a joke.
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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61% of men (or women) who are legally required to pay it, simply don’t. With little or no repercussions. Their credit isn’t even affected. So, many men keep going as is, causing unwanted pregnancies with irresponsible ejaculations and never giving it thought.
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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When the topic of abortion comes up, men might think: Abortion is horrible; women should not have abortions. And never once consider the man who CAUSED the unwanted pregnancy. If you’re not holding men responsible for unwanted pregnancies, then you are wasting your time.
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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Stop protesting at clinics. Stop shaming women. Stop trying to overturn abortion laws. If you actually care about reducing or eliminating the number of abortions in our country, simply HOLD MEN RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS.
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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What would that look like? What if there was a real and immediate consequence for men who cause an unwanted pregnancy? What kind of consequence would make sense? Should it be as harsh, painful, nauseating, scarring, expensive, risky, and life-altering…
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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… as forcing a woman to go through a 9-month unwanted pregnancy?
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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In my experience, men really like their testicles. If irresponsible ejaculations were putting their balls at risk, they would stop being irresponsible. Does castration seem like a cruel and unusual punishment? Definitely.
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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But is it worse than forcing 500,000 women a year to puke daily for months, gain 40 pounds, and then rip their bodies apart in childbirth? Is a handful of castrations worse than women dying during forced pregnancy & childbirth?
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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Put a castration law on the books, implement the law, let the media tell the story, and in 3 months or less, tada! abortions will have virtually disappeared. Can you picture it? No more abortions in less than 3 months, without ever trying to outlaw them. Amazing.
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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For those of you who consider abortion to be murder, wouldn’t you be on board with having a handful of men castrated, if it prevented 500,000 murders each year?
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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And if not, is that because you actually care more about policing women’s bodies, morality, and sexuality, than you do about reducing or eliminating abortions? (That’s a rhetorical question.)
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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Hey, you can even have the men who will be castrated bank their sperm before it happens — just in case they want to responsibly have kids some day.
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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Can’t wrap your head around a physical punishment for men? Even though you seem to be more than fine with physical punishments for women? Okay. Then how about this prevention idea: At the onset of puberty, all males in the U.S. could be required by law to get a vasectomy.
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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Vasectomies are very safe, totally reversible, and about as invasive as an doctor’s exam for a woman getting a birth control prescription. There is some soreness afterwards for about 24 hours, but that’s pretty much it for side effects.
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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(So much better than The Pill, which is taken by millions of women in our country, the side effects of which are well known and can be brutal.)
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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If/when the male becomes a responsible adult, and perhaps finds a mate, if they want to have a baby, the vasectomy can be reversed, and then redone once the childbearing stage is over. And each male can bank their sperm before the vasectomy, just in case.
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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It’s not that wild of an idea. 80% of males in the U.S. are circumcised, most as babies. And that’s not reversible.
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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Don’t like my ideas? That’s fine. I’m sure there are better ones. Go ahead and suggest your own ideas. My point is that it’s nonsense to focus on women if you’re trying to get rid of abortions. Abortion is the “cure” for an unwanted pregnancy.
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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If you want to stop abortions, you need to prevent the “disease” – meaning, unwanted pregnancies. And the only way to do that, is by focusing on men, because: MEN CAUSE 100% OF UNWANTED PREGNANCIES. Or. IRRESPONSIBLE EJACULATIONS BY MEN CAUSE 100% OF UNWANTED PREGNANCIES.
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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If you’re a man, what would the consequence need to be for you to never again ejaculate irresponsibly? Would it be money related? Maybe a loss of rights or freedoms? Physical pain?
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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Ask yourselves: What would it take for you to value the life of your sexual partner more than your own temporary pleasure or convenience?
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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Are you someone who learns better with analogies? Let’s try this one: Think of another great pleasure in life, let’s say food. Think of your favorite meal, dessert, or drink.
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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What if you found out that every time you indulge in that favorite food you risked causing great physical and mental pain for someone you know intimately. You might not cause any pain, but it’s a real risk.
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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Well, you’d probably be sad, but never indulge in that food again, right? Not worth the risk!
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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And then, what if you further found out, there was a simple thing you could do before you ate that favorite food, and it would eliminate the risk of causing pain to someone else. Which is great news!
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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BUT the simple thing you need to do makes the experience of eating the food slightly less pleasurable. To be clear, it would still be VERY pleasurable, but slightly less so. Like maybe you have to eat the food with a fork or spoon that you don’t particularly like.
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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Would you be willing to do that simple thing, and eliminate the risk of causing pain to someone you know intimately, every single time you ate your favorite food?
OF COURSE YOU WOULD.
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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Condoms (or even pulling out) is that simple thing. Don’t put women at risk. Don’t choose to maximize your own pleasure if it risks causing women pain.
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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Men mostly run our government. Men mostly make the laws. And men could eliminate abortions in 3 months or less without ever touching an abortion law or evening mentioning women.
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
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In summary: STOP TRYING TO CONTROL WOMEN’S BODIES AND SEXUALITY. UNWANTED PREGNANCIES ARE CAUSED BY MEN.
The end.
— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
The thread went wildly viral and here are just a few of the things people had to say about it.
https://twitter.com/andylassner/status/1040917770819403777
This is by far the best series of tweets I have read on Twitter. It steers clear of any insecurities that it may harbour, doesn't get polemic, doesn't pontificate or indulge in pedantic. You are absolutely right 100% pic.twitter.com/lsD76IkE5V
— Ahmed Hessaan Zafar (@ahmedhessaan) September 16, 2018
This thread is wonderful. Please spend 5 minutes of your day reading it and then another 2 absorbing it. https://t.co/5FcgcblyuQ
— Alyssa Milano (@Alyssa_Milano) September 15, 2018
Gabrielle, I just want to say that I, a straight man, salute you!! You’ve given me a good dosage of Get right. Thank you. Keep being a badass!!
— Bok TV (@WeAreBokTV) September 15, 2018
https://twitter.com/cmclymer/status/1040985967841226752
I want to thank you so much for this thread. Though I have always been a pro choice advocate I never really thought about it from this perspective. Probably becausr, as a male, I've been taught not to, as you mentioned. I have learned something new and gained a new outlook.
— Liam Nicholson (@Realiamnich) September 16, 2018