Husbands have been offering up advice for what to look for in a partner – 17 tips that singletons might (or might not) want to heed
10.
‘Be ok with making friends, if you go out into the world deciding to “find a life partner” you’re gonna become goal-oriented for the wrong things and this is part of why so many people end up getting divorced.
‘The people I know who are happiest years into relationships are the ones who started as friends and upgraded from there. The divorcees I know usually started their relationships from the standpoint of finding “a life partner” or “sex partner” as if this is incompatible with friendship which is based on shared interests and beliefs beyond Do Sex.’
-Chairboy
11.
‘if you want a good partner …….you must be a good partner’
-SaleNo8869
12.
‘Find someone you can change with. People change as they get older and married couple can drift apart if they aren’t willing to walk the same pathways as a unit.’
-donutshopsss
13.
‘Whomever you marry, you will become more like them.
‘Choose someone you admire.’
-crookedledder
14.
‘Be ok with doing things separately. Give each other space and time to miss one another. I see many couples where one dictates certain elements of their lives together and it will not work out in the long term. (or atleast create friction that is easily avoidable)
‘When you can be together by also being able to do your own thing, you’ll notice soon enough how much you enjoy each other.’
-GameRonly
15.
‘My wife and I have never, ever given each other the silent treatment.
‘We also don’t use jabs, insults, or name calling when arguing.
‘Neither one of us gets jealous if the other heads to the bar by themselves and hangs out with other people
‘I will never suffer that crap again. My 20s taught me what a shitty relationship looks like.’
-YamahaRyoko
16.
‘She’s only going to look like she is now for another 10 or 15 years. But she will be the person on the inside for her whole life. First thing: Make sure she’s beautiful on the inside. (Same thing applies to you too. Be sure you are the man she deserves.)
‘Also: make sure you enjoy hanging out with her and doing stuff with her. I genuinely do not understand married men who work all week and then spend the weekends hunting, fishing, or on the golf course with their bros. They should divorce and marry one of them.’
-TastyRamenNoodles
17.
‘Date someone you’re happy doing nothing with, because as time goes on and you get older and life gets busier you won’t have a lot of time to do the wild crazy fun things and most of your time will be doing the boring things. Make sure you’re happy in those situations.’
-johnnydanja
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