23 ‘unsexy realities of a long term relationship that nobody warns you about’

13.

‘Having uncomfortable and real conversation right when things come up. I find things get swept under the rug and resentments build. Any conversation not being had will be owed with interest at a later date.’
–Calm-Painter5457

14.

‘Well, and the opposite. Constantly litigating everything and unable to be cool about the small stuff is a problem too.’
–soviet_thermidor

15.

‘You grow up thinking true love is about making out on a windswept beach, or dancing in the moonlight, or declaring your love for each other in the pouring rain.

True love is looking at a growth on someone’s ass and telling them if they should get a doctor to look at it or not.’
–mattigus7

16.

‘They key to a happy marriage is communication, compromise, and learning which hills are worth dying on. Sometimes it really is better to just smile and nod apologise even if you were right, especially if you were right.’
–Hellswolf08

17.

‘He still can’t seem to read my mind. Very frustrating.’
–vozzov

18.

‘Once the kids are gone, and you’re no longer in parenting survival mode, you have to remember what you liked about your partner, and learn who they are now. And hope you’ve been able to grow and change in the same direction. You start dating each other again.’
–alianaoxenfree

19.

‘My wife and her friend were talking about this very thing a couple of days ago. Their suggestion: if you really want to find out what someone is like before making a long-term commitment, go on a road trip with them.’
–kamuelak

20.

‘You get to choose the person you are going to spend the worst of your days with. The good days are good, but it’s the worst days that really shows you who you picked.’
–fastsaf

21.

’23 years here. There are PEAKS and there are VALLEYS! There is no getting around that. Even the couples you swear have been madly in love for 50 years have had their valleys. The key to getting through that is to have a solid foundation of friendship that will withstand the storm. You can always rebuild from a solid foundation.’
–Automatic_Yam_4168

22.

‘How much your spouse’s family dynamics, traumas and behaviour will affect you day to day.’
–Massive-Ride204

23.

‘Been with my partner for 12 years. Once we moved in together we had to start scheduling sex and “get dressed up” style of dates that just naturally happened in the earlier days of dating. You also have to make sure you’re getting enough time apart and doing your own hobbies or you become this singular boring unit.

Our marriage is certainly still sexy, fun, novel, goofy, loving. Just looks a little different than the earlier days!’
–PeachyPesco

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