Men have been sharing their marriage ‘cheat codes’ and these 17 may (or may not!) actually work

10.
‘Just because flowers
Not because you’re sorry, or some holiday, just because. They always mean more to your SO when there isn’t a reason’
-Volasko

11.
‘Being kind is better than being right.’
-Heavy_Direction1547

12.
‘When that little voice in your head says “Don’t say it!!” when you are just about to say it, don’t say it.
Example:

‘Don’t ask any questions about how dinner is being prepared. Be delighted someone is making you dinner.’
-Initial_Helicopter87

13.
‘Pick the right person. Be super critical during the courting phase. Ask the tough questions and make sure you’re aligned.

‘But once you decide to commit, that critical switch needs to flip and you need to be their biggest cheerleader. So many couples do it the other way, lovey dovey during the courting phase and then start getting critical after they commit.’
-rvrndgonzo

14.
‘Don’t think of it as a “50/50” sort of relationship. Your half and my half. Think of it as 100% and 100%, each partner giving the other their all without expectation of equal return.’
-warewolf23

15.
‘Do not take your complaints about that person outside of the marriage just to vent or gossip. I’m not talking about enabling abusive isolation. I’m talking about the stress and annoyance that can come with daily living in regards to your spouse and longing to vent.

‘I might say that: finances, schedule, time, etc. are really stressful and complain to family or my friends about that. Complaining about circumstances, not my spouse. But I don’t talk about my husband for the sake of venting or gossiping or tearing him down in conversations with other people.

‘If I needed true assistance I’d find a therapist.

‘I find allowing yourself to wallow in gossip and disrespect to your spouse quickly colors your view and other people’s view of them and you can’t easily get that respect back. If my husband does something I view as foolish I address it with him.

‘We have been married almost 20 years and mutual respect and admiration are very important in our marriage.’
-WhiskeyTangoFox9trot

16.
‘During pregnancy and the first few months after childbirth I always hear men say, “There isn’t much for me to do with the kid, it’s all her,” my “cheat code” is that SHE is your responsibility during that time.

‘Every time her belly itches YOU put lotion on, YOU get up and get her snacks, YOU rub her feet, YOU lift her belly up to release pressure on her back, YOU buy her comfortable clothes. When the baby is born, yea she has to wake up and breastfeed, BUT YOU burp the baby, YOU change the diapers when you can.

‘I did all of this shit while being Active Duty military so it drives me up a wall when fathers and husbands make an excuse that they, “have to work” so they can’t help out. Be an active parent and an active partner. Suddenly, you’ll find yourself getting laid more too without begging. It’s like genuinely caring is attractive or something.’
-TheAlwaysLateWizard

17.
‘Share in her outrage!!

‘When she calls and tells you something crazy happened and she is annoyed at a person or situation, never respond with logic!

‘Always respond with “Are you f**king kidding me!! That asshat did what??” “I’m gonna come down there myself and deal with this!” Or something similar that fits the situation..

‘They don’t want answers or solutions, they just want you to share in their outrage!’
-Watarush27

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