What’s a red flag people often ignore because it looks ‘sweet’? – 17 concerning behaviours to beware
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‘Very lush and rich compensation after they messed up in a relationship….every time without actually listening to your partner’s issues. I have several friends whose partners are massive red flags and always make the same mistakes and I always hear about the same thing almost every week.
‘And then a day later, everything is okay we can make it work because he took me on a nice and fancy date. It’s constant, I’m so tired of hearing it.
‘“Oh he spoils me” babe that’s called love bombing because you showed signs of leaving. It’s manipulation.’
-B0llfondlr
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‘Public proposals. I’ve heard stories of women who felt they couldn’t say no because everyone was watching. Sounds like coercion to me’
-According-Smoke5659
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‘Women that act helpless so the man has to protect them. I know a 37 year old woman who wakes her husband up in the middle of the night to take her to the bathroom.
‘Same woman screams like a lunatic when she sees a bug of any description and will continue screaming until it’s gone. If you don’t want to babysit someone for the rest of their life don’t fall for that “rescue me I’m helpless” bullshit.’
-Few_Step_7444
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‘Recording yourself giving homeless people food or money’
-Suspicious_Sock_2048
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‘When someone always agrees with you and never disagrees, it feels comforting at first like peace. But over time, you realize that silence and constant approval aren’t love or respect, they’re avoidance.
‘Real care means honesty, even when it’s uncomfortable. The sweetest words can sometimes hide the deepest distance’
-DayDue7310
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‘Someone says they are a person of god. Then they are given a free pass.
‘I grew up in the church and found that many religious people are vile and wicked.’
-Free_Avocado3995
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‘Ignoring your wishes to be more “gentlemanly”
‘If I say I don’t want you to pay for my dinner, don’t ignore my preferences and insist. Just let me pay.’
-NeedsItRough
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‘This one may be a slight bit unpopular or less known, but trauma dumping.
‘I’ve been guilty of this myself in the past. I’m ND (neurodivergent), and I did it because I had an extremely anxious attachment style toward anyone who showed me any modicum of kindness.
‘To some, it can come off as “sweet” or “endearing” or that the person doing the trauma dumping “trusts you really fast”.
‘In all reality, though, it’s more likely either the person struggles with maintaining a secure attachment style with someone, or it’s a manipulation tactic used to create a super quick bond (this is common in people – at least, that I’ve personally noticed – with some type of narcissistic traits. Not full-on NPD, but the traits normally associated with it).’
-Apollo_Patron
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