‘What was the final straw that ended a lifelong friendship?’ – 17 buddy bust-ups
11.
‘I was diagnosed with cancer a year after moving across the country from my friends from high school. I didn’t ask for them to do anything except play some online games with me while I recovered from surgery.
Not one of them did. They were playing other games (I could see in my various friends lists) but none of them would put aside the games they were playing to keep me company and take my mind off of things. No texts, no phone calls, nothing. The only thing I asked for was time/online company and they put in zero effort.
This was the last straw in a long, long string of feeling like an afterthought. It’s been 9 years and not a single one of them has even tried to contact me since then. Guess being an “afterthought” was too optimistic even.’
-bythog
12.
‘found out he slept with my high school girlfriend and held that secret for 10 years. He also invited my 13 year old sister out to drink and party with his/our friends.
Drew the line, ended the friendship, and clocked him in the jaw for that one.
I didn’t learn he slept with my high school girlfriend until many years after the friendship ended. But that made a lot of things make complete sense.
He was always extremely angry and ticked off at me whenever I spent time with her.
He was never a friend really’
-glebo123
13.
‘We were supposed to move in together- The first move away from our parents. Fortunately, we were renting from my parents, because…. The night before our move-in date, he called me to say he had gotten his own apartment earlier that day, without me. He then listed entirely everything about me that annoyed him and every mistake and flaw I had that he knew about. Since he was my best friend, it was a lot. There was no sign this was coming. We had only ever argued a couple of times. I never knew that so much about me was so distasteful to him. I was devastated.
A couple of weeks later, he called and came over until I spoke to him. He was very apologetic- for reasons I would have completely understood had he told me, he had a breakdown and realized he needed to live on his own. Knowing it was going to mess things up for me, he made it my fault. He said he didn’t mean any of it and was horrified about how he treated me. Yet it was so detailed and specific, going back years to incidents that I had no idea were an issue. There was just no fixing it. I could never feel comfortable and trust him again. On one hand, I miss people I used to know. I don’t miss him or think of him often or with nostalgic fondness. My daughter doesn’t know who he is when she comes across old pictures of us, but she knows about other old friends, since I mention them. On the other hand…
It’s been 20 years. It’s hard for me to have close friends still, because I feel like they may be building lists of things I do wrong and ways I just am wrong and awful. And maybe they’ll call one day when I least expect it and list it all.
It wasn’t good.’
-2beagles
14.
‘Best friend of 19 years tells me to go talk to a cute guy at a wedding
Guy and I hit it off and start a long distance relationship.
Best friend of 19 years gives me the silent treatment for no reason for 3 weeks including my birthday because I told her that guy and I are doing really well.
Best friend of 19 years starts talking to me again but never explains herself and never apologizes for acting like a child.
Never says she’s happy that I’m happy in a new relationship; never shows any support
Best friend of 19 years and I start hanging out again but I keep a safe distance emotionally because why did she get upset about me starting a relationship with someone that she told me to go talk to in the first place
After 1.5 years of hanging out again, found out that best friend of 19 years still talks shit about my relationship behind my back. That was the final straw for me. Blocked on everything. Moved on. Actually much less stress in my life since cutting her off.
No longer best friend of 19 years.’
-okitay
15.
‘He yelled at me for correcting him on the pronunciation of a word, something he did to me all the time, despite being wrong. He yelled and yelled at me. I said I’m done, bye, but not before calmly getting in one barb at him.’
-Fancy_Cassowary
16.
‘He insulted the lady who has been my assistant for almost 30 years.’
-Immediate_Detail_709
17.
‘Ruined my hen do because she couldn’t stand not being the centre of attention for one day.’
-Then-Dragonfruit-702