‘What’s something people do to be ‘nice’ that actually drives you mad?’ – 24 kindnesses that are actually cruel
13.
‘People who try and offer you things and won’t take no for an answer. Was at my mums friends and not feeling great. She offered me wine, I said no thanks. I’m alright for wine. She kept insisting. Despite me saying no she brought me a glass of wine. When we left she noticed I didn’t drink it and started telling me I had hadn’t drunk my wine (that I didn’t ask for). I told her I hadn’t wanted it and did say no when she asked. She looked annoyed. Why don’t people understand no.’
–Junior_Tradition7958
14.
‘Unsolicited advice.’
–Time_Possession2066
15.
‘But have you tried doing a thing that worked for me in a completely unrelated situation that you actually have already tried and it didn’t work for you?’
–EdgarAlansHoe
16.
‘Don’t flash your car headlights to thank me for letting you through, now I can’t bloody see properly!’
–dumplenut
17.
‘People telling you that you look tired (to try and let you know so as to be helpful, I guess??).’
–Fancy-Significance-5
18.
‘Ghosting. I see it as something that’s inherently unkind, and should be reserved for a limited range of people/situations. Especially with dating. I was surprised to find out that some people seem to genuinely believe ghosting is the ‘nicer’ option, even if done to a person that hasn’t actually done anything wrong but you’re just not interested in pursuing things further with for whatever reason.’
–getoutmywayatonce
19.
”I don’t mind – you choose!’ When picking a restaurant, gift, activity, music to play, whatever. Drives me insane. I make decisions all day long at work, and sometimes I just want to NOT have to do all the thinking and decision-making. I have a friend who always orders for me in restaurants, which a lot of people would hate, but I absolutely love it.’
–Thoughtful_giant13
20.
‘As a disabled person: over explaining things to me or speaking slowly thinking they’re helping when actually they’re just making me feel dumb.’
–springsomnia
21.
‘When you do an eBay or Amazon help chat and they start with their script of something like ‘Hello, it’s wonderful to hear from you I can surely help you today, it would be a great please. Be assured that we can sort it out’. Just fucking get on and do it and stop with all the shit pretend pleasantries!’
–Last_Negotiation4073
22.
‘People (men) trying to help me reverse, I don’t need the help, you’re just in my way, move!’
–rockchick99
23.
‘When people that you only consider work mates buy you gifts.’
–rayoflight110
24.
‘Saying ‘bless you’ after I sneeze. It’s not because of the religious/superstition thing, it’s because I am one of those chaps with a photic sneeze reflex, and sneeze in batches of two or threes, and there’s nothing fucking worse on God’s Green Earth than someone distracting you when you are about to sneeze (again).
‘To those of you who say it — I hope all your tea is cold, and all your Hobnobs soggy!’
–DeinOnkelFred
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